Due to the constant demands we face in our everyday lives, our intimate relationships can often take a back seat. However, it is this very relationship that necessitates ongoing attention and nurturance in order to remain strong and resilient in the face of life’s challenges. Often couples wait until a crisis to get outside help, however, it is never too early to seek couples therapy.
Put simply, if you are thinking that you could benefit from couples therapy, you are a good candidate for it. Whether you are looking to enhance your relationship, improve communication, or address maladaptive relationship patterns, couples therapy can provide the safe and contained space that you and your partner need. Often the hardest step is the first step — making the decision to seek couples therapy. If you and your partner are considering making that step, I strongly encourage you to contact me. As a couple’s therapist in the South Bay, my goal is to provide clients with the tools they need in order to thrive in their relationships.
I have seen couples for years, and the most common struggles that I encounter are:
There are many other reasons as to why a couple, or an individual in a couple, might want to seek out couples therapy.
My approach to couples therapy focuses on helping partners explore who they want to be and what they expect of themselves in their relationship – instead of focusing on how to get their partner to change. This means helping both partners develop the capacity to self-confront, self-validate, and self-soothe.
Intimate relationships bring a lot of meaning to our lives, but they are not easy. Couples therapy provides an opportunity for two people to openly confront the problems within their relationship instead of ignoring them and allowing the pain, hurt, or resentment to build.
I encourage each partner to focus on the self he or she wants to bring to the relationship. By helping couples to be more willing to face the challenges in their relationship constructively, we can avoid wasting energy and emotion on blaming the other person. Intrapersonal and interpersonal growth is challenging, however, it is a vital component of successful couples therapy. I will work with you to help you and your partner understand what you need from yourself instead of how to make your partner “better”.
When couples leave my office they will inevitably continue to face challenges in their lives and in their relationships. My goal is to provide couples with the tools they need to overcome these challenges and reach their potential for an enduring and meaningful intimate relationship.
To learn more about couples therapy and some of the myths tied to it, click here.
My office is located in Hermosa Beach, CA, and I work with couples living in Manhattan Beach, Redondo Beach, El Segundo, and the rest of the South Bay. If you have general questions about couples therapy and the approach I use, please check out my FAQ page here.
If you are having trouble achieving intimacy, connection, or communication in your relationship, please contact me by phone or email today. You may also request an appointment by clicking the button below.
“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”