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How To Make Long-Distance Relationships Work

Long-distance relationships can be extremely difficult. However, through patience and perseverance, you can make it work. In any successful relationship, especially when both partners are hundreds or even thousands of miles apart, communication is everything. Although there is no exact formula to making your long-distance relationship work, as a Manhattan Beach couples therapist, I have several valuable tips that will help strengthen and even enhance your long-distance bond!

Stay Positive

One of the most important things in life is maintaining a positive outlook. Life throws many obstacles at us. It is important for us to navigate them in a positive manner in order to lead a happier, healthier life. A long-distance relationship is no different. 

In your relationship, there will be many ups and downs. However, it is important to remain positive through these vicissitudes and embrace the emotional rollercoaster of love. It is very easy to become all consumed by the thought of missing your significant other. Often, these thoughts can become so overwhelming that school or work are often set on the backburner. Instead of being productive, the only thing on your mind is whom they are with, what they are doing, and whether or not they are still committed to this relationship. Focusing on what is happening in your life and staying present in the moment is especially crucial when we are in a long distance relationship. When you feel weighed down by thoughts related to your relationship, it is important to surround yourself with supportive people in your life who are local and engage in activities that you enjoy. 

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It Takes Two To Tango

A relationship is most successful when both parties are committed to making things work. It doesn’t matter if it’s a long-distance relationship or not, if one person is consistently putting in all the effort, eventually this person can become resentful. It is important for mutual reciprocity to be established early on in order to make the relationship work. The following are areas where both partner’s efforts will pay off:

• Calling or Texting

It is important to make sure one person isn’t always initiating the conversation. This can come across as not only inconsiderate, but can relay the message that you may not be as committed as the other.

• Making Future Plans

Taking the time to plan a vacation or a weekend visit can speak volumes. Planning ahead demonstrates an investment in your relationship and shows that you care and are willing to make time for one other. It also indicates that you can see yourself together in the future and gives you something to look forward to together.

• Don’t Play Games!

One of the worst things you can do in a long-distance relationship is play games. Even if your partner isn’t typically a jealous person, it can be easy to fuel this toxic emotion. Take the time to communicate with your significant other if you are going out with your friends, etc. The last thing you want to do is have your partner find out what you’re doing and whom you’re with through social media without having had clear communication prior to the event

Patience Is A Virtue

Remaining patient can be one of the most challenging, yet rewarding aspects of a long-distance relationship. Not having physical touch and intimacy can make some feel less connected to their significant other, so it is vitally important to stay patient! When your vacation weekend finally arrives, it will be worth the grueling weeks or months you were forced to wait to see each other. This can not only strengthen the bond of your relationship but also reignite the flame. 

Contact Your South Bay Therapist Today

Whether you are in a long-distance relationship or not, relationships can be challenging. I have assisted many clients navigate their relationship struggles through couples therapy which I provide to clients in Hermosa Beach and the surrounding communities. I take the time to provide the care and compassion needed to help my clients work towards stronger relationships and a happier life. If you have any questions about the services I offer, feel free to contact me. I look forward to hearing from you soon!